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Feels Like Friday Already

  • Posted on August 15, 2011 at 8:25 am

Not even 9:30am and already I am ready to go to bed.

From the smell of urine, to doggy poop, to everything including a whining wife, it’s a morning from Hell. Worse is, Mom is feeling the heat, though it really isn’t what you’d call a hot day. Sure the temps are up, but not like they are even in the 80’s.

She is moving slower these days, as the groin infection continues to wear at her.  It is hard to know anymore, what is hurting, if anything, or if it is a perceived pain. Her faculties are a bit disjointed the last few days, or perhaps even longer.

Her focus is fine, memory of times past is still amazing at times, and yet, there are moments when it is like she doesn’t even know where she is at.

Ah Monday, just another day coping with it all.

Scary Week Ahead

  • Posted on November 6, 2010 at 11:39 am
This entry is part 6 of 7 in the series Vacation Hell

Our regular worker is off all of next week.  That means we will have a five day round of substitute workers, that leaves me with a cold chill down my spine. 

This is what happens, when the majority of home support workers being sent into our homes, are either unqualified, or simply uncaring.  It is also what happens, when you have a company playing games.  Trust is non existent.

It is bad enough to wonder, every night & day who is going to show up, the regular worker or some stranger. It creates unnecessary stress, but when you KNOW it is going to be a substitute, the stress isn’t any less.

Now the worry becomes about how qualified will they be, and if not, what can be done to mitigate their damage.  YES DAMAGE, because improper care, results in increased illness. Simple procedure of NOT PROPERLY DRYING Mom in the groin area, will lead to increased use of the prescription creams.

BUT the worst is, that it will ascerbate her condition, CAUSING HER PAIN IN WALKING.  When that happens, it limits her desire to walk, which in turn prevents her from getting any real exercise.  This impacts her muscles, and bowels too.  If she isn’t walking much, there is no stimulation of the stomach muscles, and the result can be constipation

So you see Beacon Community Services, it really isn’t as frigging simple as you think, nor as meaningless.   By your inability to insure qualified staffing, YOU ARE ENDANGERING A 93 YEAR OLD WOMAN.

DOES THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY?

I Don’t Want To Go Through This

  • Posted on December 3, 2009 at 11:51 pm

We watched a movie tonight, like most every nights, and this wasn’t the kind of movie I expected. It was a tear jerker, called “Marley and Me”.   It was good, too damn good as it had me balling like a baby.  Also, the memories it brought back, were & are, painful.

I’ve had to put two dogs down in my life, and the last one was a real kicker. Hell both were, but the scene in the movie, where he is doing that, brought that scene back, one that still haunts me. I hate it, but worse, it also brought back the memory of Dad passing away in the Hospital.

How Dad’s eyes looked at me, trying to tell me, to remind me to take care of Mom, of David. It was hard to see, and how he looked. I can see it now, as I type this and the tears are still flowing. You know, whoever said grown men don’t cry is full of shit.

Sad movies are not good, though the memories are always there. These kind of shows, just bring them forward, and it’s strange, how it just, well overwhelms you. I don’t know how I can go through this again, and yet I know I will.   I have a dog, and she’s a real pain, just like Marley, and yet, it is true. She loves us with her heart, every single day, and yet that isn’t what has me in tears. It is the look on Mom’s face, how she kept watching it, remembering Dad, and then too, thinking of when it comes to be her time.

She may becoming more ornery at times, more demanding, and yet, she isn’t. I can’t explain it, but it is like she is fighting the ravages of ninety two years, of the hard life she led. It hasn’t been easy, still isn’t, and if anything is a bit harder now. Things are costly, and I try, but how far can I stretch a buck? And yet I do, and I know, it is going to keep on being this way, as she is not going to get all that better.

Mom may have years left, and despite all that is going on, I still hope for that, and more. I just don’t know, how I can go through it again, seeing the eyes staring, wondering, what she might be saying or thinking, as the life passes into history.

I just don’t know anymore, how I’ll cope, how she will handle it. I don’t understand GOD, on how he can have engineered such a thing as us, and then to have us go through all this. I Love GOD, but at times he makes me so angry, makes me feel so helpless.  I see the pain, and I have to wonder, why?

This is indeed much harder than I ever thought.

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