… there is no way she could have seen what she says, and very very doubtful she could have heard what she claims to have heard.
So now it gets tougher, and I haven’t a clue on how to deal with it.
She says she has seen people use our backyard to cut through to the main street. Not possible, given the blackberry bushes and David’s junk in the yard, but she insists she has seen them. Hard to do when laying in a bed.
That was a few days ago, or perhaps longer now. My memory is starting to have things run into each other. Time is just a blur.
Last night it was noises. She couldn’t tell me what kind of noise, but then she said it was water running. Which most likely was David flushing the toilet. Then it was other noises. And through all this, she is also saying I am making her feel stupid, because I am telling her there is nothing to worry about.
So just what do you say, when someone is insistent they hear ( or see ) something, you absolutely KNOW they couldn’t have?
How do you deal with their paranoia because otherwise, they get a rotten night’s sleep, at best. And that isn’t a good thing. Course your own sleep is rather, stressed, but that is besides the point.
It is amazing, at how they ( old people ) can fixate on something, that might not even be there. And is that a sign of something more insidious, like Dementia? Or is it a reaction to medications?
Naturally you just can’t ignore it either. What if she really did hear something? And then too, the whole issue of not wanting to bother you, so she uses the bell instead of the buzzer. Now the Bell is fine, when I am upstairs or out on the balcony. You can hear it easily, even over the television ( if it was on ). But not downstairs.
Hence the buzzer we got. Yet she won’t use it, because she thinks it is for emergencies only, but what does she think is an emergency? I mean, these are the questions that go through my head, after episodes like last night. Will she call if something serious happens to her, like hard to breathe, or something like that? Or will she not think it important, so only use the bell?
One thing is certain, there are no easy answers.